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The Transtheoretical Model of Behavior

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By: Yashvi Patel, Kennedy College of Sciences Well-being Leader

In one of my Health psychology classes this semester, I learned about the transtheoretical model of behavior change. As summer is rolling around and the weather is getting warmer, it is the perfect time to work towards goals and build better habits! I wanted to share the transtheoretical model, which helped me get into fitness. The great thing about it is that it can be applied towards any “problem” behavior or something you want to change about yourself.  

There are five stages in the transtheoretical model of behavior change: precontemplation, contemplation, preparation, action, and maintenance. I used to be at the first stage of this model, precontemplation, which is characterized by a lack of intention to change and unaware that not engaging in exercise is a problem behavior. I always aspired to be more toned and muscular, but I would procrastinate. Truthfully, it was because I was embarrassed at the thought of going to the gym, such as not knowing how to use equipment. I was discouraged of the fact that results would not be instant and I would be signing up for something that is a long term commitment. I just woke up one morning and realized I wasn’t ever going to be fully ready until I really set foot in the gym. 

I moved into the contemplation stage where I acknowledged that my behavior was a problem and needed to take action in the near future. To get to this stage, it is important to develop self-efficacy. I imagined the improvements I may see (desirable appearance, better mental and physical health) if I took control of this whole process and developed the persistence to carry through with my plans. For me to get past the contemplation stage, I needed to develop a positive outlook. People’s awareness about their health habits are important in producing behavior change. I needed to feel like I was in control of the process and consequences, and I needed to incorporate the strategy of cognitive restructuring. The goal of cognitive restructuring is to replace stress producing thoughts or negative thoughts with more balanced thoughts that are not stress provoking.  I wanted to modify my internal monologues to promote physical activity. To accomplish this, I charted down my negative self-thoughts, countering them with positive thoughts, such as altering the constant belief that “I cannot do it” to “I can do it.” I reminded myself to “trust the process” by writing it on a sticky note and pasting it onto my bathroom mirror, so that it is the first thing I see each morning as I brush my teeth. These positive self-talks turned into affirmations that I recited each morning leading up to my workout.  

In self-efficacy, it is important to contemplate the desirable changes before putting intervention plans into effect. I learned that there are positive mental, physical, and physiological outcomes for this behavioral change of exercising. Exercise is known to reduce anxiety, stress, and depression, enhance cognitive functioning, and improve academic performance. It also increases metabolism, improves sleep, and reduces risk factors for chronic illnesses like heart disease, diabetes, cancer, and obesity. 

The next stage is preparation, in which I intended to make small modifications to my behavior. I started by purchasing running shoes, weights, and gym equipment, and saving workout YouTube videos that allowed me to develop an exercise plan. I prepared myself for more vigorous physical activity by engaging in more household chores than usual and going for a walk once a day. These were slight modifications in my daily life that would allow me to get to the more intensive activities.   

Next is the action stage where I modified my behavior and adopted this newly formed habit of working out and holding myself accountable to it. In this stage, I developed a workout routine and established contingency contracting, in which a friend or family member would hold me accountable through rewards (such as going to the movies) or punishments for skipping a workout (such as staying in for the weekend). I took advantage of my strong social support, including my family and friends who are also into fitness. Having a gym buddy helped me to adhere to my intervention plan. Every morning, I went for a jog with my dad and grandpa. Cardio is known to strengthen the heart and lungs and reduce fatigue. My friend used to go to the Campus Recreation Center at UMass Lowell at 7 am each day. I started joining her every other day before my morning classes. I remembered pre/post-workout stretches (from when I used to run track in high school) that I was able to teach her so that we could do them together. From time to time, my friend and I exchanged fitness reels to add to our workout as I got more comfortable. I used to save them and integrate them into my workout routine.  

The last stage is centered around maintenance. It stresses the importance of continuity in healthy habits and the prevention of relapse to old behaviors. I developed a set of coping mechanisms for other risk factors that may bring me back to inactivity. Personally, when I have too many exams and homework, I struggle with motivation to engage in physical activity. I learned to incorporate time management strategies so that I can make time for my workout routine. I blocked off one-two hours every morning for physical activity and did not budge around that. I reminded myself of the importance of being consistent in working out every day or every other day because it’s hard to get back into it once you take even a small break. I would also constantly remind myself of my long-term goals of working out (abs, muscles, endurance, and strength) because results are not instant and can take months or even years to achieve. It brings me back to the idea of self-efficacy and being in control of the entire process from start to finish. For me to declare it as a healthy habit, I needed to be in continuity for at least six months. Once I made it past six months, I was devoted to maintaining this habit as I could risk reverting back to my old ways. It is a fact that inactivity can return the muscles to their pre-training levels. 

I hope you can use this model to change any type of behavior you view as a problem and use concepts such as self-efficacy, social support, and positive self-talks to become a better version of yourself! You can even reach out to a Well-being leader, like myself, if you want to develop a model for any type of behavior. Together, we can build healthier habits and incorporate them into your schedule. 

 References:

https://www.ruralhealthinfo.org/toolkits/health-promotion/2/theories-and-models/stages-of-change#:~:text=Contemplation%3A%20There%20are%20intentions%20to,maintained%20for%20the%20long%2Dterm.

Navigating Schedules

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By: Sai Igiede, Zuckerberg College of Health Sciences Well-being Leader

Hello there,

It’s Sai, your local well-being leader and, today, we are going to be talking about scheduling, more importantly when you are behind schedule. 

Many people end up “behind schedule” for several reasons. I’m actually behind schedule for a few things as I type this. The more important aspect of creating a schedule is realizing that not everything will be done in the time frame that you originally planned for it to be completed by. An assignment might take longer or even a shorter amount of time than expected, causing you to be ahead. Here are some ways you can make the most of your schedule:

  1. Be content with not finishing everything at once.

As someone who is doing a million things at once, it is often super challenging to complete everything on my to-do list in a singular day or even a specific time frame. I suggest following my three steps to help combat this issue:

  • Plan per week instead of per day/study session. 
  • Try to focus on one specific task rather than an entire course load. 
  • Pace yourself.

Doing these three steps helps to reduce my stress levels while also allowing me to understand what I need to be doing and when I need to complete my assignments.

  1. Find a schedule type that works for you.

Some people vary in the types of schedules they use/prefer. I have multiple schedules that track different things. For example, I have one just for classes, one for assignments, and another for non-academic things like specific dates I plan to meet with friends. The apps I listed below help me keep track of everything I need to do and know:

  • Notion 
  • Google Calendar 
  • Journal 
  • Reminders 
  • Good Notes 

Scheduling can be very tricky to say the least. It took me a few weeks to understand what my schedule needed and how to stay consistent. What might work for you may not work for someone like me and vice versa, and that is fine. Take it one day at a time and be patient with yourself.

Until next time,

Sai 

Navigating Coffee Consumption in College

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By: Medi Woldemichael, Manning School of Business Well-being Leader

In college, coffee often becomes a staple in our daily routine, serving as an important source of energy and focus. However, the relationship we have with coffee can significantly impact our overall well-being. It’s important to find a good balance in drinking coffee, this way, you can enjoy its deliciousness and benefits without drinking too much and facing problems.

The advantages of moderate coffee consumption are clear: improved concentration, alertness, a potential mood boost, and protection against Type 2 diabetes. However, excessive intake can lead to negative effects like sleep disruption, increased anxiety, and dependence. With such knowledge, I have compiled some helpful suggestions to minimize these negative effects:

Strategies for Balanced Coffee Consumption

  1. Timing

Consuming coffee late in the day can interfere with sleep. Limit coffee intake to the morning and early afternoon to avoid sleep disturbances.

  1. Quantity

Keep track of how much coffee you’re consuming. A standard cup is about 8 ounces, which can quickly add up in larger servings.

  1. Be Mindful of Additives

Adding too much sugar and cream can reduce the health benefits of coffee. Choose to add just a little to keep your coffee healthy.

  1. Listen to Your Body

Individual reactions to caffeine vary. Pay attention to how your body responds and adjust your intake accordingly.

  1. Seek Alternative Energy Sources

Don’t rely solely on coffee for energy. A balanced diet, regular exercise, and adequate sleep are essential for maintaining energy levels.

Coffee can be a beneficial part of your college experience if consumed wisely. Understanding how to balance your coffee intake can help you enjoy its benefits while avoiding the drawbacks. By implementing these strategies, you can maintain a healthy relationship with coffee throughout your college years.

Additionally, there’s a perk for taking care of your well-being: students who meet with a Well-being Leader can receive a Starbucks voucher. It’s a great incentive to engage in a conversation about your health and well-being, plus you can enjoy a coffee on us!

The Benefits of Therapy

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By: Fajr Zahid, Zuckerberg College of Health Sciences Well-being Leader

Therapy can be highly beneficial in helping to treat a wide array of emotional challenges, including mental health conditions, stress, adverse life events, and trauma. It can also help individuals to better understand themselves and their behavior, which is important when trying to overcome such challenges. While therapy is often thought of as a one-on-one session between a patient and a mental health professional, such as a therapist or counselor, there are many different forms of therapy, each targeting a specific goal or outcome. Here are a few common types:

  1. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT)

CBT aims to help people identify and alter unhealthy behavior patterns and replace them with healthier, more effective behaviors. This type of therapy works well for individuals with mental health disorders, such as depression and anxiety. 

  1. Interpersonal therapy (IPT)

IPT places an emphasis on improving relationships and helping patients learn to express their emotions in healthy ways, as well as improving communication skills. This therapy type is known to work well for individuals struggling with depression.

  1. Family therapy

Family therapy builds stronger communication between family members, and helps in handling and solving conflicts more effectively. Certain forms of this kind of therapy are often used in cases of eating disorders and bipolar disorder. 

  1. Psychodynamic therapy 

Psychodynamic therapy focuses on helping people better interpret and understand their unconscious emotions and feelings, which may be affecting their mental well-being and behavior patterns. 

  1. Art therapy

Art therapy helps people express their emotions and promotes healing through art forms such as drawing/painting, music, and dance. 

It is important to find the right fit for yourself when beginning your journey with therapy. It may take some trial and error before you find what type of therapy works best for you. While it takes time and patience to begin seeing improvements in your struggling areas, there are many potential benefits to utilizing therapy as a form of treatment for your mental health concerns. These benefits include, but are not limited to:

  • Increased strength and resilience against fears and mental struggles
  • Overcoming negative/unhealthy behaviors, attitudes, or coping mechanisms
  • Improved relationships and communication skills
  • Finding relief and peace among difficult life events
  • Boosted self-esteem and self-confidence
  • Newfound knowledge to handle strong emotions, such as grief or anger
  • Healing from past traumas

If you often find yourself struggling with mental health and experience difficulty overcoming these struggles, talking to a therapist or counselor could be of great benefit to you. It is important to keep an open mind and to remain patient throughout your journey, as it may take time to adjust and find your best fit (in terms of both your provider and the type of therapy). I hope you found this article to be useful, and that you are able to apply some of the things I mentioned to improve your own well-being. 🙂

Resources:

https://www.mhanational.org/therapy

https://www.psychiatry.org/patients-families/psychotherapy

Ramadan and Spiritual Wellness

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By: Doa Jamal, Francis College of Engineering Well-being Leader

Ramadan

Ramadan, the holy month in the Islamic lunar calendar, holds special significance for Muslims as they engage in a daily fast from sunrise to sunset, refraining from food and drink. Starting this year on March 10th, with the inaugural day of fasting on March 11th, Ramadan stands as one of the five core pillars of Islam.

This fasting ritual goes beyond mere abstention; it serves as a profound form of worship, enabling Muslims to rejuvenate spiritually, strengthen their religious awareness, and intensify their devotion to God. By consciously restraining their desires throughout daylight hours, individuals embark on a transformative journey, initiating and concluding each day with prayer and worship. The fast encourages mindfulness and appreciation for blessings, as Muslims express gratitude to God. Enduring abstinence fosters a heightened awareness of the scarcity of essential elements like food and water in different regions.

Moving beyond its religious aspects, Ramadan inspires Muslims to instigate positive changes, cultivating habits that extend beyond the holy month. This involves avoiding sins such as lying and backbiting, promoting virtuous conduct, and contributing to personal development.

Recognizing the broader significance of fasting, individuals from diverse faiths adopt this practice for reasons such as religion, health, spirituality, and more.

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Spiritual Well-Being

However, spiritual wellness does not necessarily include religion (though it can). Spiritual wellness is defined as striving for equilibrium and unity through an exploration of significance and connection, delving into your fundamental principles (morals and ethics), deciphering how you interpret life events, and identifying what gives you comfort and relief.

Some goals to work on your spiritual well-being can be:

  • Ponder and explore your personal values. 
  • Ask questions to understand and clarify those values. 
  • Gain awareness of how life experiences shape and alter your values. 
  • Recognize variations in the values of others. 
  • Seek meaning in your life. 
  • Foster integrity by aligning your actions with your values.

Sources:

  1. https://yaqeeninstitute.org/what-islam-says-about/ramadan 
  2. https://www.uml.edu/wellbeing/dimensions/spiritual.aspx
  3. https://www.northwestern.edu/wellness/8-dimensions/spiritual-wellness.html#:~:text=Spiritual%20wellness%20is%20defined%20as,may%20not%20involve%20religious%20activities.  

Types of Breaks to Help With Studying

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By: Mia Andrade, Kennedy College of Sciences Well-being Leader

As the semester is approaching an end, it is important to keep up with assignments and all that comes your way. Breaks are essential in keeping you refreshed and maintaining that momentum to finish your semester off strong. When deciding to take a break from studying, it can help to start by asking yourself, “What do I want out of my break?” Does it help you relax? Does it excite or challenge you? Effective breaks are important and will leave you feeling revitalized and motivated to study. 

There are four different types of breaks that may help when you need to take your mind off studying: 

  1. Get creative. 

Creative activities come with many potential benefits. They can help you improve your memory, exercise your right brain, give your prefrontal cortex a break, and help your brain produce dopamine. Some suggestions may be:

  • Setting a new goal
  • Learning something new
  • Allowing yourself to daydream
  1. Move. 

All types of movement are a great way to take a break. Moving around and completing a small task helps build productivity and motivation to continue studying. Moving around also improves alertness and attention span. Sometimes changing the setting you are in during a study session can help avoid boredom and produce calming effects. Some activities you can try are:

  • Changing your environment
  • Completing a small chore
  • Going for a walk
  1. Nourish your body and mind. 

Taking care of your body and mind is essential to foster a productive study session. Its many benefits include stress relief, increased productivity, and increased attentivity. This is my favorite type of break to take! As a pre-med student, most of my time is devoted to studying and completing assignments. I find the nourishment of my body and mind crucial to helping me excel in my academics. Naps have to be my favorite. Some ways I would suggest accomplishing this type of rest may be:

  • Meditating
  • Taking a power nap
  • Listening to music
  • Having a snack
  1. Socialize. By socializing with other people, you create a positive emotional state for yourself. You feel socially connected to others and can take your mind off studying for some time before getting back into the game. Some ways you can utilize your break to socialize may be:
  • Calling a friend or family member to catch up
  • Going to the dining hall to meet up with friends

Overall, taking breaks in between studying is important in maintaining your well-being. As students, we need to prioritize breaks between studying and classes to allow our bodies and brains to reset and avoid burnout. Taking care of yourself is top priority!

Standing Tall: My Journey Against Peer Pressure

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By: Angel Molekunnel, Manning School of Business Well-being Leader 

As I stepped onto UMass Lowell’s campus for the first time, a whirlwind of excitement and anticipation surrounded me. The prospect of newfound freedom and endless possibilities seemed exhilarating, but little did I know that along with this newfound independence would come relentless pressure.

The first few weeks passed in a blur, between orientation events and late-night dorm room gatherings. It wasn’t long before I found myself surrounded by peers who seemed to effortlessly navigate the social scene, their confidence fueled by the allure of alcohol and drugs.

At first, I brushed off the subtle hints and invitations, eager to find my place without compromising my values. But as the days turned into weeks, the pressure to partake in the party culture became increasingly difficult to ignore. It seemed like everywhere I turned, there was another invitation, another opportunity to join in and let loose.

I watched as friends and acquaintances succumbed to the temptation, their inhibitions melting away with each sip of alcohol or puff of smoke. Part of me longed to join them, to shed my reservations and immerse myself in the euphoria of the moment. But deep down, I knew that giving in would betray the principles I held dear to.

As the pressure mounted, I found myself grappling with doubt and uncertainty. Was I missing out on the quintessential college experience by abstaining from alcohol and drugs? Would I ever truly belong if I didn’t conform to the expectations of those around me?

But then, in a moment of clarity, I realized that my worth wasn’t defined by the choices I made or the substances I consumed. My strength lay in my ability to stand firm in the face of adversity, to chart my own course despite the prevailing currents of peer pressure.

I chose to stay away from peer pressure for several reasons:

Personal Values: I have strong personal values that prioritize health, safety, and integrity.

Academic Goals: Maintaining focus on my academic goals is paramount, and avoiding substance-use helps me stay on track.

Long-Term Well-Being: I recognize the long-term consequences of alcohol and drug abuse and prioritize my physical and mental well-being.

Self-Respect: By staying true to myself and my principles, I cultivate a sense of self-respect and self-confidence.

Positive Relationships: Surrounding myself with friends who respect my choices fosters genuine and positive relationships.

Legal Concerns: I am aware of the legal ramifications of underage drinking and drug possession and choose to avoid legal trouble.

Role Model: I aspire to be a role model for others and demonstrate that it’s possible to have a fulfilling college experience without succumbing to peer pressure.

With such considerations in mind, I began to assertively decline invitations to parties and gatherings where alcohol and drugs were the focal point. I surrounded myself with friends who respect my decisions and support my journey, finding solace in their unwavering encouragement.

As time went on, I discovered that there were countless ways to find joy and fulfillment in college beyond the confines of substance use. From hiking adventures to late-night study sessions, I embraced each opportunity to connect with others and create meaningful memories.

Looking back on my college experience, I am filled with pride knowing that I stayed true to myself in the face of adversity. While the allure of peer pressure may have been strong, it was no match for the strength of my convictions and the support of those who stood by my side.

Today, as I reflect on the journey that brought me to where I am, I am grateful for the lessons learned and the person I have become. Standing tall against peer pressure was no easy feat, but it was undoubtedly one of the most rewarding decisions I have ever made.

Emotional Freedom: the Bad Habit of Keeping Your Feelings Bottled Up

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By: Fahad Alden, Fine Arts Humanities and Social Sciences Well-being Leader

Why outward self-expression benefits more than just your state of mind

“There was a point where I found myself looking out for people who never cared for me, betrayed me, and didn’t support me.”

Sound familiar?

If you’re like me, you’ve interacted with many people in different capacities, whether friends, lovers, or colleagues. And if you struggle with being a people pleaser, chances are high that you’ve become accustomed to putting the feelings of others ahead of your own.

Even though society oddly praises selflessness for shelving your own emotions in favor of sparing someone else’s, repeatedly assuaging the pain of others while allowing your feelings to be neglected and frequently ignored can have long-lasting and detrimental effects on your psyche.

Suffering In Silence

Being polite is in my DNA. It’s been ingrained in me since childhood to always put on a cheerful demeanor,take the high road, and smile no matter the circumstance. To be fair, a lot of immigrants have this same mindset ingrained in them. This is how we manage memories of war, losing family and how we grasp losing our homeland.

This mindset lingreded  with me as I entered university and the workforce. Being positive or a “hype man” ended up being a main  compliment if not only I would get  Which caused me to associate it with my identity. It is because of this that I wear  “positivity” like a T-shirt, constantly swallowing my sadness to not burden anyone else with it.

By the grace of God, David, a friend of mine, entered my life a year ago. He has allowed me to express who I am without judgment or the desire for me to always be cheery. He taught me that we are not meant to continuously be the rock for everyone in our circle without having anyone to lean on.

Reveling In Self-Expression

I never thought that pouring myself into my creative projects would be the main catalyst to helping me break down my walls, allowing me to fully express myself in ways I’ve never experienced. Pouring yourself into creative work, such as art, writing, or music, is healing because it cathartically releases emotions. Resultantly, you get the end product made out of something dark turned into something beautiful.

I learned that suppressing my feelings only led to being treated like a doormat and contributed to my heightened levels of anxiety, stress, and anger.

Living Out Loud

Unlocking your feelings will open the doors to a newfound freedom that will help improve your communication and build your self-esteem

 You begin to learn the difference between exhibiting decorum when appropriate and completely disregarding your own feelings, growing more resentful as time goes on. Suddenly, you wake up knowing your worth.

 Mastering the art of vulnerability is not an overnight process, so start slow, stay the course, and if you’re in need of a little musical therapy by The Weeknd to get you through the tough times, they’ve got you covered. 

What is it about music that opens us up in ways that no one can?It allows us to feel less alone and more connected to humanity. No matter your age, race or gender we are all angry, sad or jealous at times. It is better to embrace these emotions than act as if they do not exist.

Thank you for reading, and I invite you to check other articles and stay connected for future ones. 

Link:  https://www.pinterest.com/Wicked_Moose/

About to graduate? Tackle the job search.

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By: Alejandra Malaga Walters, Francis College of Engineering Well-being Leader

People in this generation have shown that they do not want a small life or a small job. They want to work in a place where they can experience a sense of purpose. To land a job like that, to be noticed among the many, some special spark in you must burn brightly. Every single person out there has the capability of obtaining such a spark. But for that, there’s a critical ingredient that it needs to grow: space. 

Space is the pathway to discovering a job you’re passionate about. Too often, job seekers get caught up in the anxiety of the hunt and forget to nurture their spark. They forget to take a minute to think, or to breathe, reflect, and recover from the stress of finding meaningful work. Without space, job searching becomes overwhelming and this may drive someone to choose a role they don’t really want or burn out before even entering the interview process. 

If you’re currently searching for a job and feeling stressed, the following strategies may help you take the space you need to make smarter decisions about your future:

  1. Bring your best self.

Rather than focusing on specific outcomes, you should visualize yourself bringing your best self to high-stake situations, such as job interviews or the first day of work. This practice can alleviate stress and restore a sense of calm and clarity. 

  1. Address worries appropriately.

To safeguard your well-being, try to separate emotions from worries. While it’s important to acknowledge and experience emotions fully, worries should be contained and addressed at specific times each day in a healthy way, such as journaling. This prevents rumination and maintains focus. 

  1. Give yourself a minute to think.

Instead of impulsively accepting any job offer out of financial pressure, you should take time to consider whether a role aligns with your long-term goals and values. Is it something you really want? Try to visualize yourself in the position. This involves quiet reflection and sitting with decisions before acting. 

Transitioning from school into the workplace isn’t easy. Be thoughtful, don’t panic, and back up your big dreams with action.  And remember, your first job does not define your entire future! Dream jobs often become more accessible once you have some experience, and as you progress in your career, the nature of your dream job might change. Relieve some of the pressure surrounding graduation knowing that you don’t have to be doing the perfect thing right away. 

Take advantage of the resources available to you through UMass Lowell:

  • The Career Center: meet with an advisor for assistance with resume building, job searching (including at career fairs), filling out applications, and developing interviewing skills
  • Well-being leaders: schedule a meeting with a well-being leader to connect you with on-campus resources and help you discover opportunities in your chosen field 
  • Handshake: join this online platform to connect with UML alumni and recruiting employers

Finally, remember, there’s something you can learn from every job, and every experience you have will benefit you as a professional. So, know that you’ve got this. You’re armed with your degree, and you should be proud of all you’ve accomplished so far. Now, breathe in, and get ready to take your next big step. 

References: 

Finding a Job is Stressful. Here’s How to Get Through it. (hbr.org) 

About to Graduate? Don’t Freak Out About Your Career, Follow These Steps Instead (forbes.com)  

Living With Anxiety

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By: Julia Yeadon, College of Fine Arts Humanities and Social Sciences Well-being Leader

Imagine this: your palms are sweating, your heart racing, your chest tightening, throat closing, fighting for a breath of air – This is the experience of many individuals struggling with anxiety that deeply impacts their quality of life. When asked what anxiety is by someone who has not lived with it, I struggle to fully capture its daunting and exhausting qualities with a simple definition. It feels different each day. Some days are easy to manage and other days feel impossible to get through. Some days it feels like constant worrying and tension. Other days feel so intense with fear that it is inescapable. Some days a multitude of triggers stack on top of one another until everything comes crumbling down. Other days the worrying and fear have no clear reason. 

I have struggled with anxiety since elementary school. I remember the constant stomach aches and intense feeling of worry that kept me up every night. I remember experiencing sudden rushes of anxiety when leaving the house and when a test was placed in front of me at school. I remember avoiding the people and things I loved because I thought it would prevent an anxiety attack. I still experience most of this today.

For many years, I accepted that life would always be difficult with anxiety. I accepted that sometimes I would need to cancel plans to avoid social situations and hide at home where I felt most comfortable. I accepted not going to the mall, not going to that birthday party, not going to that concert, not living my life as I should have been all along. For those in the same place I was years ago, I want to tell you that life can be just as beautiful with anxiety, but it takes some work and consistency. Oftentimes, this may mean therapy, medication, or both, but there are also a number of self-help tools that can limit the symptoms as well. I would like to share some of those that I have learned over the past few years (many of which I discovered in college):

  1. Avoid caffeine and alcohol.

I love my morning coffee, but I notice that days where I have more than one coffee or consume other caffeinated beverages often increases my anxiety. You don’t need to completely cut coffee out of your diet, but consider the amount of caffeine you are consuming and decaffeinated options during more difficult days. In addition, days where I am experiencing more intense levels of anxiety are often worsened by consumption of alcohol. Try eliminating or decreasing caffeine and alcohol intake to see how this can affect your anxiety.

  1. Try meditation and breathing exercises.

During the start of college, I experienced a spike in my anxiety. I was having anxiety attacks more often and struggled to control them. I struggled to sleep as worries rushed through my mind the second my head hit the pillow each night. I was desperate to find anything that helped. I remember searching online for ways to ease an anxiety attack and I found meditation videos on YouTube. Thus, I began listening to short videos before bed and whenever I began to feel symptoms of an anxiety attack arise. I also found breathing techniques during my search, suggesting the 3-3-3 technique, in which you breathe in for 3 seconds, hold for 3 seconds, and release for 3 seconds. I recently tried yoga (which includes components of both meditation and breathing exercises) and have seen significant improvement. The thought of this sounded silly and useless at first, but I found that I can control my thoughts and my breathing.

  1. Stay active in your mind and body.

During my sophomore year of college, I began consistently weightlifting at the gym and felt immediate relief from anxiety. Physical exercise can look many different ways – running, going for walks, riding a bike, swimming, dancing, basketball, pilates, or yoga. Whatever way (or ways) you enjoy most, try to do it daily. Staying active physically decreases tension, relieves stress, and releases endorphins that enhance your mood. In addition, it is important to allow your mind to be active. Many individuals try to cope with their anxiety by pushing away worrying thoughts, and while distracting yourself can help temporarily, many of these thoughts return later on. Instead, try writing down these thoughts. After writing them down on a piece of paper, crumple it, tear it up, or burn it (safely, of course) to help yourself let go of these worries.

  1. Use the ice trick.

When I first started college, all I knew about easing anxiety attacks was to focus on breathing until one of my roommates shared a trick with me as she noticed me experiencing an anxiety attack one day. She took two ice packs from the freezer and held one to my ankle and the other to the back of my neck. Within seconds, the anxiety attack had passed. I asked her how it worked and she explained that the brain shifts focus between the two separate areas of the body, distracting the mind from the feeling of panic. This trick has yet to fail me.

  1. Don’t let yourself hide.

I have struggled with this for as long as I can remember, and, unfortunately, I sometimes still succumb to the idea of comfort through being alone in my own space. I often feel that when I am anxious, being in social settings will be too overstimulating, and, even worse, I fear experiencing an anxiety attack in public with nowhere to hide. But, I began forcing myself to attend those plans I had with my friends and I soon realized that surrounding myself with those who I love actually eases my anxiety. I also found that many of my friends live with anxiety too and could share what helps them. It saddens me to realize how much I have missed out on throughout the years due to my anxiety. Some days, I still choose to cancel plans and stay at home, but I try my best to allow the thought of missing out on making memories with loved ones to push myself to follow through with plans. 

If there is one thing you take from this, please know that your anxiety does not have to control you. You have the power to live a happy and fulfilling life despite the challenges that come with anxiety. While the suggestions above derive from my personal experiences, there are many other individuals eager to help. Please view a list of on-campus resources below to help you gain control of your anxiety: