{"id":895,"date":"2025-12-08T15:16:42","date_gmt":"2025-12-08T20:16:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blogs.uml.edu\/wellbeing\/?p=895"},"modified":"2025-12-08T15:16:44","modified_gmt":"2025-12-08T20:16:44","slug":"life-is-coming-from-you-not-at-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blogs.uml.edu\/wellbeing\/2025\/12\/08\/life-is-coming-from-you-not-at-you\/","title":{"rendered":"Life Is Coming <\/strong>From<\/em><\/strong> You, Not <\/strong>At<\/em><\/strong> You<\/strong>"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

By: Fatin Rahman, Francis College of Engineering Well-Being Leader<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

As I wrap up 2025, I keep returning to the mantra that carried me through every ridiculous, painful, chaotic moment this year: life is coming from you, not at you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I think about all the times things felt out of control, when I sprained my ankle in March and had to walk around campus with a limp, when I injured my hip in November and was forced into bed rest, annoyed and embarrassed that I wasn\u2019t more careful, especially during midterms. I think about my birthday in October, when I completely broke down from the pressure of classes, work, clubs, deadlines\u2026 just everything.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And yet, that mantra pulled me through every single time. It reminded me that there is no invisible hand shaping my fate. Things happen, yes: inconvenient, painful, unfair things. But  I decide what I make of them. I\u2019m not the victim of my life\u2019s circumstances; I am the one steering through them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I think back to that Tuesday in November. I knew the injury was bad, but the consequences hadn\u2019t sunk in yet. My mind spun out instantly: What events will I miss? Will my boss think I\u2019m unreliable? How many classes will I fall behind in? Am I really starting from zero in the gym again after working so hard?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

And then, almost like a snap:  So what?  <\/strong>If I have to restart, I\u2019ll restart. I\u2019ve done it before. I survived because I refused not to.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When the world starts closing in, when exams pile up, when work responsibilities stack, when the \u201chalfway-through-college\u201d panic hits,  I remind myself how far I\u2019ve come simply from not yielding. Reframing everything this way has been my greatest strength. I\u2019ve given a few horrible presentations that made me want to hide under a rock. I\u2019ve had days where nothing went right. But progress isn\u2019t linear; it\u2019s messy, humbling, and sometimes just straight up mean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Still, I don\u2019t fold. Because whatever unstoppable force life decides to fling at me meets something even stronger: my will, my resilience.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And that\u2019s why I cling to the things that keep me grounded: the gym, my friends, spontaneous city trips, small routines that remind me life is still good and still mine. People always ask, \u201cHow do you do it all?\u201d and I always start with this quote.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Life is coming from you, from your choices, your strength, your mindset, not at you. And the moment I started believing that, everything changed.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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