By: Nokomis Bramantecohen, College of Fine Arts, Humanities, and Social Sciences Well-Being Leader
Today, I am going to discuss the topic of growing pains. All people, regardless of age, height, or social status, can relate to this universal feeling in different ways. Growing pains are more than just physical discomfort; they stand for the difficulties that arise during any kind of growth, whether it be professional, emotional, or personal.
What are Growing Pains?
According to Merriam Webster, America’s most trusted dictionary, growing pains can be defined as the following:
- Pains in the legs of growing children that have no demonstrable relation to growth.
- The stresses and strains of attending a new project or development.
Physical Growing Pains
Beyond the two definitions listed above, there are other ways in which growing pains can occur. As children’s bodies grow and develop quickly, many of them experience leg aches. These temporary pains usually affect the thighs, calves, or behind the knees. They come and go frequently without any pattern, and can sometimes occur after intense exercise (running, jumping, or climbing), which can put extra strain on growing muscles. These pains, which usually start in the late afternoon or evening, can range from a slight ache, to a sharp, stabbing pain.
While these aches are typically not dangerous, they serve as a reminder that growth has its own set of difficulties, even for young children. Though the exact cause of physical growing pains remains unclear, some theories point to the normal flexing and stretching of bones, ligaments, and muscles during a child’s growth.
Emotional and Mental Growing Pains
It can be frightening to learn new things about ourselves, whether they are positive or negative. The person we thought we once knew, all of a sudden begins to grow, both physically and mentally. In order to accommodate these changes, we often need to make some mental and emotional adjustments. These uncomfortable times can also mark important milestones, or bring about new and unfamiliar feelings.
Emotional and mental growing pains can be characterized by the following:
- Intense emotions, such as extreme fear, worry, sadness, or anger
- Decreased energy or motivation
- Avoiding friends and family
- Withdrawing from favorite activities
- Frequent mood swings
Transition Phases in Life
As we grow up and transition through life’s phases, it is important to prioritize self-care and to be kind to ourselves. Many of us experience moments in life when we say “yes” to too many things, or make more commitments than we can handle. Life gets busy, and it is common to get wrapped up in everything and forget to take care of yourself. However, just like we prioritize booking a doctor or dentist appointment, we need to keep in mind the significance of prioritizing our mental health.
Coping Strategies
Whether you are dealing with physical growing pains, or emotional/mental growing pains, there are numerous solutions to help you cope with your struggles. While physical growing pains often have more concrete solutions compared to emotional growing pains, here are some strategies that can help you with both:
- Stretching! – Stretching helps soothe your body and your muscles. You should make sure to stretch before and after playing a sport or partaking in any physical activity. If you don’t want to engage in any rigorous activities, but still want to get active, yoga is a great, relaxing option. Not only does it help with your physical well-being, but it can also benefit your emotional and mental health.
- Use Heat! – Whether you are using a heating pad, taking a warm shower/bath, or drinking something warm, heat can make your body feel more relaxed and even help alleviate pain. So, if you are feeling sore or upset, try stepping into a warm shower or making your favorite tea with honey!
- Write Down your Feelings! – As humans, we have the ability to feel so many different emotions at once, which can sometimes get overwhelming. Writing down what we do, how we feel, and what can help is an incredible coping strategy. So, grab a journal, find a pen, and let out all of your thoughts, feelings, and emotions!
- Be Creative! – We spend so much time and energy on school, work, chores, and more, so it’s important to free up time to practice things that get our creativity flowing! When we dedicate time to the things we like to do, it can make us happier in life! Some examples could include coloring, crocheting, knitting, scrapbooking, building, drawing, or painting.
- Prioritize Self Care! – We are constantly on the move, going from one task to another. Every now and then, however, it is important to put ourselves first. Whether it’s dedicating an hour of the day to relaxing and reading a book, or turning off all electronic devices and having a rest day, aim to do one thing each day that nurtures your well-being. Some more examples could include taking a long shower, doing skincare, meditating, taking a long walk, petting a dog, watching a comfort show—the list goes on!
My office hours are 10am-noon on Mondays and Wednesdays! These well-being appointments can help you with any of the dimensions of wellness (physical, emotional, intellectual, social, spiritual, financial, occupational and environmental). Well-Being Leaders can help students who are struggling with their growth and transitions through life! You can book an appointment with me here: https://www.uml.edu/wellbeing/well-being-leaders.aspx