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\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0So, you two said forever, but now you feel as though forever\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0should have ended yesterday. Your significant other is too busy.\u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0Too clingy. Too far. Too close. Just too much! You used to scream the L word without hesitation, but now you’re second guessing yourself. You spend time replaying interactions and something just feels…off.<\/div>\n
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\u00a0 \u00a0 Seeing how this is NOT an advice column, I will not become the UMass Lowell version of Ask <\/i>Suzie, and I won\u2019t tell you what to do with your relationship. However, I will say that you have to remember what your goals are. Many times, students let relationships divert their paths. It\u2019s one thing to alter plans. It\u2019s another thing to forget about the future, your<\/i>future, because you\u2019re so caught up in the here and now. If you have a hard time identifying what you like to do without your partner, if you don\u2019t mind failing as long as you\u2019re pleasing your partner, or if you feel useless or worthless without your partner, it may be time to re-evaluate yourself and your relationship. You two should push each other to be the best versions of yourselves. If this isn\u2019t happening, then something has to change.<\/div>\n
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\u00a0 If you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship, call The National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. At UMass Lowell there are numerous resources from Resident Advisors to any faculty member you can find. Anonymous resources include: Counseling Services: 978-934-4331 in the Wellness Center, University Crossing, 3rd floor \/\/ Campus Ministry: 978-934-2100 in University Crossing, 3rd floor \/\/ Student Health Services: 978-934-4991 in the Wellness Center, University Crossing 3rd floor \/\/ Victim’s Advocate: Jacquie Keeves, 978-934-2127, Assistant Director for Violence Prevention.<\/div>\n
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It\u2019s okay to be selfish, it\u2019s your future.<\/i><\/span><\/b><\/div>\n
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